Lucky_Owners

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原帖由 victor888 於 2009-3-19 03:19 PM 發表


nod

mic mic so smart now

:smile_13::smile_13:

cos she is speaking to the devil ...

chefung

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原帖由 victor888 於 2009-3-19 03:13 PM 發表


Well......at least that kind of love can be last,.......

:smile_13: :smile_13:

and they are happy with it (in most case)

I doubt if they are happy with it..
Ancient people have simple minds ( Here I take the population as mostly peasants, in villages. )
They were struggling for the living and didn't bother too much about their spiritual lives.
Even they might find another half not that good, it's really hard to find another one ( unless you are rich to get more wives )
and it's nearly impossible to get divorced and get another wife.
Above is for men's case, it's even worse for women due to inferior of social position.

People "have to" live with it.
Like now, we have choices and problem/conflict got obvious

armic

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原帖由 victor888 於 2009-3-19 03:19 PM 發表


nod

mic mic so smart now

:smile_13::smile_13:

I am a smart gal. I have tried hard to change one person. But I can't change him. For example, I think hardly change one person mature as you.

blue_rosey

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原帖由 chefung 於 2009-3-19 03:22 PM 發表 I doubt if they are happy with it..Ancient people have simple minds ( Here I take the population as mostly peasants, in villages. )They were struggling for the living and didn't bother too much  ...

What about all those Islamic countries that still believe in arrange marriage... and no-dating? 

I don't know if you guys have ever had Islamic friends, but the tradition is that, there is no dating allowed.  The girl's family... brothers or father arrange for men to meet the girl, and the girl have a talk with him, he then decides to propose to her... and she can only accept or decline (there's no... let's wait awhile and see... no... let's date a bit to see.. no... let's get engage for now...) 

mikan85

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原帖由 chefung 於 2009-3-19 03:22 PM 發表

I doubt if they are happy with it..
Ancient people have simple minds ( Here I take the population as mostly peasants, in villages. )
They were struggling for the living and didn't bother too much  ...

exactly..this was wat i was getting at..
i didnt hv time to elaborate on it..
try to be happy..cuz u cant change partner..

chefung

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原帖由 blue_rosey 於 2009-3-19 03:25 PM 發表

What about all those Islamic countries that still believe in arrange marriage... and no-dating?

I don't know if you guys have ever had Islamic friends, but the tradition is that, there is n ...

Muslims people...
They are too conservative...it's hard for open mind people to understand them.

chefung

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原帖由 armic 於 2009-3-19 03:24 PM 發表


I am a smart gal. I have tried hard to change one person. But I can't change him. For example, I think hardly change one person mature as you.

Why do you want to change someone?

Now, if you change your another half, it indirectly implies there is a list in your heart.
A bunch of personalites/characteristic that you prefer.

For friends' good, oh well, it's ok

[ 本帖最後由 chefung 於 2009-3-19 03:30 PM 編輯 ]

Lucky_Owners

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原帖由 chefung 於 2009-3-19 03:28 PM 發表


Why do you want to change someone?

Now, if you change your another half, it indirectly implies there is a list in your heart.
A bunch of personalites/characteristic that you prefer.

For fr ...

to be honest, if it is good, I dont mind girls try to change the boys...
I do think both side needs to work out something so that they can communicate better ...

mikan85

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原帖由 chefung 於 2009-3-19 03:28 PM 發表


Why do you want to change someone?

Now, if you change your another half, it indirectly implies there is a list in your heart.
A bunch of personalites/characteristic that you prefer.

For fr ...

cuz only hlf the list iz chked...n u wnt ur whole list filled w/ chk marks..

wannabe

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原帖由 blue_rosey 於 2009-3-19 03:19 PM 發表

Thats why i say.. find someone that completes you in personalities and goals.  

Every person has some bad traits, but for every person who has those bad traits, there is someone who doesn't mind them or can tolerate them well.

ummm ... imho we would most likely succeed to fair well in love relationships only if we can EMBRACE others shortcomings and ACCEPT them the way they are