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原帖由 blue_rosey 於 2009-8-9 11:52 AM 發表 
friends with benefits
1. A safe relationship, that mimics a real partnership but is void orgreatly laking jealousy and other such emotions that come with aserious relationship.
well that's definitely not the definition i learnt back then and not even the same as i found on urban dict
a friend in which you are allowed sexual activity but no true relationship is involved. not a gf or bf
the benefit is purely sexual. not to be tied with feelings
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=friend+with+benefits
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i guess this is exactly what we are.
and intention... i don't intend for anything, but if he can become a better person because of me, it'll make me happy...
but i don't expect that because i am the one to make him a "better" (inmy opinion) person, he'll end up being in some sort of relationshipwith me,
that's a rather naive thinking to project on anyone, but especially on him.
if you feel comfortable with this current relationship with him, who am i to judge?
but ya ... i guess the best policy is not to expect too much then i think you will be alright
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as for time investment... i don't know, i have fun with him, isn't it enough?
and he's not tying me down from seeing anyone else, so it's not like i can't date other people meanwhile.
in fact, i think it'll give him some relief when i do have a steady relationhip so i won't become attach to him.
(although if i do get into a relationship, i doubt very much i'll see him)
sounds like you are gonna go for multiple dating to me
but that's exactly the perk being single haha
if A doesn't work out, there is another person ... and if B is busy, there's always C
anyway, i believe you've figured out what you want and what not
just that sometimes you goto put yourself first and learn to say NO once in a while
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so in terms of what i think our relationship is in the future if it does have a long-term longivity...
i think until he's ready to settle down, he'll be my rebound guy between relationships.
although preferably, i want us to do away the sex and just be friends in the long term, but that's a bit too late i think.
you know, IMHO having sex too soon is indeed a bad idea ... read some article saying that your body will release several hormones, esp oxytocin which has a pair bonding effect and make you attached to that person hmmmm interesting, eh? i'm just afraid you would be the one left with an empty heart and feeling pathetic and used when things go bad ^^"
