Just want to share my exp...positive/negative feedback welcome...
Although I am married, I still visit 141/sn/nc/k (on avg less than once a month) for the fun and thrill. I used to be a regular visitor but have cut down on the bad habits after marriage. I've been with my wife for almost 10 years (lived together for 6, married for 4 years, no kids). I love my wife but I need some spark in my routine life. Nothing else. I never sank before. Too dangerous and too much time needed. I always thought I was too experienced and had everything (my emotions etc) in control and not going to sink boat. But....
Last month, I went to one nc in sz with some friends and met a girl I couldn't resist. The mamasan brought in many girls and we had a hard time picking since many of them were porkchops. Finally I just randomly picked one girl that I thought would be fun to be with for drinks that night. She was definitely not the prettiest in the room but for some reason I found her to be quite charming and attractive after a few rounds of drinks and talks. We didn't sleep together that night as my friends had to return home early. She gave me her number before we left.
For some reason, I can't take my mind off of her. I called her up a couple of days later asked her to go out and spend time with me for one day in sz. This was the first time for me to ask these type of girls out on a date. I was on vacation and so I was very flexible. Of course, I had to lie to my wife and tell her that I was looking at some property investment in China.
The two days I spent with her brought back the 拍拖 feeling that I no longer have with my wife. We didn't do much, just walk around 東門, 歡樂谷...We had street food for lunch and hot pot for dinner. It was very cold that night and we weren't properly dressed for the cold weather. During that day, she did ask me to buy her a few things (hand cream, a jacket because she was cold, some bedsheets for her new home in 湖南) but they were not worth a lot (less than RMB 250 or the cost of going to NC to meet her).
We slept together in the hotel that night. We had sex 4 times (2 at night and 2 in the morning
). After lunch, she walked me to the train station and kissed goodbye. I paid her RMB 1000. She laughed and refused when I said I would pay her and I stuffed the money in her pocket anyway. I was not looking for free lunch.
The sex was definitely enjoyable but it was the feeling that matters the most. Walking, holding hands, hugging and kissing in the streets were things I still do with my wife but with this lady is quite different. Thru our conversations, I found her to be quite mature and 顧家. She doesn't dress in expensive clothing. She claims that she works in the nc only to support her family in 湖南.
After that trip, I still keep in contact with her every day thru phone calls and sms. I went back to sz to see her for a few times this month and the feeling of 拍拖 and 沉船 got stronger and stronger. We would have fun and spend money here and there but she never asks my to buy her anything expensive. I didn't stay overnight anymore. I would love to but my conscience keeps pushing me back to hk.
I intend to keep a casual relationship with her and I will pay her each time we see each other. While this might be dangerous, I found that I do need that extra emotional spark in my life to keep me going in my routine life. Financially I can definitely pay her enough money to be my 二奶 and keep her from working in nc. But my work is very busy and would keep me from visiting her regularly in sz. I understand that she still works in the nc and will sleep with other men for money and probably does not have the same feeling for me as I have for her. But sometimes when emotion and feeling take control of you, there's nothing you can do. Just 見步行步.
Sorry can't type Chinese. My pinyin is really bad. Wish me luck.
