piggy3616

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原帖由 chefung 於 2009-7-30 05:15 PM 發表


Yeah...but she had waited me for 4-5 years which makes me feel guilty
She even phoned me when a guy dated her out in 2008 Valentines and I said " Why not? Give you a chance at least to see it wor ...

You can't stop someone from loving you.
But, if you really have no intention to start with her, it is better that you say everything clearly, to reject her....... don't waste a girl's time.

chefung

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原帖由 piggy3616 於 2009-7-30 05:17 PM 發表


You can't stop someone from loving you.
But, if you really have no intention to start with her, it is better that you say everything clearly, to reject her....... don't waste a girl's time.

The "Hope you can find a new bf this year" letter has been mailed > 5 times to be honest....

What can I do?
I want to be friends with her. Saying too explicitly will make me lose a good friend
I almost had no secret in front of her. I shared every little pieces of my life even what I wrote down in my diary with her. Awwww.

When I met her, I met her bf too. I know both of them. I had love issure when I loved another girl who are in US ( I was in HK , another LD one...i hate that ). Anyway, I seeked for opinion from her as she is one of my few female friends that can chat well. I did, honestly treat her as one of my best friends, never thought of bf-gf relationship as her bf is my friend too. I was too naive that there is pure friendship between guys and girls ( I still believe in this though ) and things didn't go well.  She then broke up with her bf and mailed a letter ( like love letter or so, i was in US already ). Then I realized the problem...

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piggy3616

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原帖由 chefung 於 2009-7-30 05:24 PM 發表


The "Hope you can find a new bf this year" letter has been mailed > 5 times to be honest....

What can I do?
I want to be friends with her. Saying too explicitly will make me lose a good friend ...

Let go!
If you only treat her as your best friend, then keep on.
You are not doing anything to mislead her.  
A one-way love won't work.
Just let her know, whenever she needs help, you'll be there.  That will be enough.  

chefung

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原帖由 piggy3616 於 2009-7-30 05:29 PM 發表


Let go!
If you only treat her as your best friend, then keep on.
You are not doing anything to mislead her.  
A one-way love won't work.
Just let her know, whenever she needs help, you'll be t ...

Good. Thanks.
Now I am relieved that she got a bf.
Less guilty for me

piggy3616

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原帖由 chefung 於 2009-7-30 05:31 PM 發表


Good. Thanks.
Now I am relieved that she got a bf.
Less guilty for me

If you don't love her....... even she is with you, she won't feel happy.
So, you should feel happy, as she finds a boyfriend who love her.

chefung

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原帖由 piggy3616 於 2009-7-30 05:35 PM 發表



If you don't love her....... even she is with you, she won't feel happy.
So, you should feel happy, as she finds a boyfriend who love her.

I won't say I won't love her
Or I just care about her, as best friends.
But in bf-gf relationship, she has a lot of points that I dislike

E.g. She doesn't want to have kids. maybe even not married. etc

Just different mind set in that.

piggy3616

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原帖由 chefung 於 2009-7-30 05:36 PM 發表


I won't say I won't love her
Or I just care about her, as best friends.
But in bf-gf relationship, she has a lot of points that I dislike

E.g. She doesn't want to have kids. maybe even not m ...

It is better not to expect you can change someone's character.
But in real life, many women / men thought, after they build up a relationship with someone, then that men / women would change for them.  Sometimes, it ends up with unhappy ending.

I have a feeling that, 相愛很易,　相處很難.　

chefung

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原帖由 piggy3616 於 2009-7-30 05:50 PM 發表

相愛很易,　相處很難.

Yeah, exactly

For love, there is chemisty in your brain to fascinate this
So, people can love each other easily even with sex as it's human instinct
However, those moment will fade out and in long terms, 相處 is very very important especially when the love fade out.

I am searching a 易相處 before I can share my love with my future gf
So I won't love, try to not, one easily

piggy3616

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原帖由 chefung 於 2009-7-30 06:00 PM 發表


Yeah, exactly

For love, there is chemisty in your brain to fascinate this
So, people can love each other easily even with sex as it's human instinct
However, those moment will fade out and in ...

You like to write......... I like to write......
If only count the number of words......... maybe my post is "Sit 2 look 1"!

koala0824

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原帖由 chefung 於 2009-7-30 07:24 PM 發表


The "Hope you can find a new bf this year" letter has been mailed > 5 times to be honest....

What can I do?
I want to be friends with her. Saying too explicitly will make me lose a good friend ...

Cherry, this is really true, there is a possibility of freindship between girls and boys (male and female). I have lots of female freinds too. haha