我今年 15歲, 去左 Canada 讀書 2年 (今年第3年, 讀完小學去的).
今年第一年 high school, grade 9, 識左個 grade 11, 大我2年的男朋友. 佢係CBC (Canadian Born Chinese). 係埋一齊 有4個多月了. 我真係好鍾意佢, 佢都好錫我, 好關心我. 佢係我覺得一個滿分既男朋友. 我身邊 D friend 都話佢又靚仔, 又對我一條心, 世上極品啦.

4 個多月啦, 攬攬鍚錫實有. 佢好 gentleman, 每次都會睇我意思. 我從來都沒覺得佢唔尊重我.

上兩個星期, 我去佢屋企, 佢媽咪臨時出左街(佢媽咪知道我地拍緊拖), 係佢房佢錫我個時隻手伸左去我件衫到想除我衫鈕. 我第一反應有縮一縮, 但之後就冇叫佢停手, 由得佢繼續. 佢解到差唔多第三粒鈕, 就停左手. 我問佢 "what's wrong?", 佢就話 "I don't wanna take it from you when you are not ready for it.". 我驚佢會吾開心, 會嬲, 想即刻解釋, 佢就話 "It's okay. Really. I understand. I am not mad. Don't worry. But promise me you will be honest to me next time. If you are not ready for it, let me know. I just want to know the truth and i want you to be happy.". 我聽到佢咁講真係好感動, 好開心. 之後佢既舉動都話左俾我知, 佢同我一齊吾係只係為左 sex.

今日lunch time, 想去佢 locker 到俾個 surprise 佢, 我無意中聽到佢同佢班男仔 friend 係到傾計. 佢其中一個 friend 話 "If she didn't ask you to stop, why did you stop then?", 我男朋友就話 "She didn't ask me to, but she wanted me to. If she was really ready for it, she wouldn't try to aviod my hand at her first reaction. She didn't ask me to stop because she didn't want me to be mad or upset. I don't want her to feel bad either.", 佢個 friend 就話 " Don't you want it though?". 我男朋友就話 "Of caurse I do! But what i am saying is that i love her. I don't want her to have sex with me because she thinks i am with her because of it and she doesn't wanna lose me. I want her to be willing to give it to me.". 佢另外一個 friend 就話 "Talk to her about this then. Or you know, try it again. If she really doesn't want it for now, you should respect her, and i am sure she will aprreciate it.". 我男朋友就話 "I really don't know what i should do. I want it, you know what i am saying, she is a lovely girl, but she is just 15, and i really love her. I really do. I don't want her to feel bad. errrh, I don't know.". 聽到呢度我唔敢再繼續聽落去, 行開左.

放學之後見到佢, 佢同平時一樣, 冇咩分別. 佢應該唔知道我聽到佢同佢D friend 既 conversation.
我唔知我應該點. 聽到佢話佢好愛我, 吾想我唔開心, 我真係好感動. 但係我依家應該點做? 我應該老實同佢講我聽到哂, 定係一路扮唔知? 如果佢真係再 "take action", 我又應唔應認同佢....? 其實我自己都唔知我 ready 未. 講真, 我都成 15 歲了, 雖然係女仔, 但對呢樣野都會好奇, 再加上我男朋友又對我咁好, 我又真係好愛佢. 但呢樣野一生人只得一次... 有冇人可以俾下意見? 我真係唔知點做好.
(我係真係有心想問意見的, 請勿惡搞或留低 D 騷擾性既留言. THX. )

扮從未聽過，順其自然，不過我相信你下次唔會再有潛意識抗拒。

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Sex is really a part of love? If you have personal special consideration to delay it, then would he understand and not leave you ?

Especially you just 15!  Maybe it is very common and usual to your friends, but you are you, you're not others. Right ?

I think you are just waiting for a better atmosphere, a romantic special moment to let it happen naturally.

Put it aside for a while ,you can do lots of things in a relation rather then sex , testing his patientness or testing your resistance ?
or you can post it in "love forum"情情愛愛” to get more advice

看完你全文 想讚一讚你很年紀小已經去到外地
但仍能用中文用得很好 起碼很努力沒錯別字
英文也能平衡得到 可見你都該是個肯讀書的學生吧
既然中英文你都懂得平衡 相信愛情與學業及將來人生都會明白該如何分配
有一點想提一提 希望可以幫樓主清晰一吓
樓主的心儀對象無疑該是樓主心中的一百分
有一點該留意係他會與友人分享他與你之間很私人的問題
這次分享的還算是較容易接受到
但若真的發生關係的話 就變成𡁻完唱了 三思

首先, 妳只有 15, 妳明白呢個數字對妳有咩意思麻 ? 仲有妳覺得妳父母又點睇呢 ? :smile_13:
所以, 客觀上黎講, 妳係未 ready, 正確黎講係唔應該 ready 住;
而且從妳o既字眼當中, 妳其實主觀上都係仲未 ready o既 ~

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咁, 點解妳會憂慮呢 ? 點解妳要出呢個 post 呢 ?
就係因為妳男友果一句"愛妳"嗎 ? 果句o係佢同其他人提起妳時講出黎果句"愛妳" ?
再加上所謂時代o既變遷, 保護自己o既貞操就係老套 ? 性開放先叫做時尚 ?
(唉 ~ 呢樣真係有排講 .... 我無謂, 亦唔想係度寫論文勒 ~ :smile_45: )
怕唔俾男友, 就會失去咗一個"話"愛自己o既人 ? 因為妳咁做代表唔愛佢 ? :smile_39:

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希望, 妳可以企後一步, 望一望自己, 望一望我上面o既問題 ...
然後, 幫自己諗一諗, 應該點做好呢 ??
當然, 有野想唔通, 妳都仲可以上黎跟進下, 參考下大家o既意見啦 ~

你提出咗一個好有參考價值o既要點 ~ :smile_o12:
首先勿論個男生與同學之間o既對話係咪"有心"俾樓主聽先 ...
但, 樓主應該諗諗 ~ 點解佢地會o係果度, 咁樣講 d 關於妳地之間o既事情呢 ?
d 同學其實已經知道 d 咩呢 ? 知道幾多呢 ? 從何說起呢 ?
佢地o係度討論o既背後動機又係咩呢 ? 講黎做咩呢 ? :smile_53:

[ 本帖最後由 知輸俠 於 2011-3-7 03:15 AM 編輯 ]

順其自然啦~愛一個人唔一定要做愛~
但如果有性有愛係好~但有男仔會得到左而唔愛對方~

所以慢慢黎啦~隨心吧~!支持您~!