真的，只有經歷過，才會明白！

You're so funny, you turn love into a moral lesson and theory.  
Is it that simple?  Can people live by logic and principles alone?  We are emotional creatures with flesh and blood.  but more importantly, "all human were born selfish" -- Thomas hobbes. :p

I was actually quite touched after I read this post... I am going through the same thing, as "the other girl" (I actually wrote to the poster for advice.  naturally he did not disappoint me). Even in my position, I can't ask the man i love to leave his wife even though I'm sure he feels strongly for me.  I can't even wish/hope for it.  How can I?  It's not fair to her...  it's not fair to him... and it's not like he doesn't love her.  they built a family together, it's not just a matter between 2-3 people.  It's just not so simple... and I can only imagine it's infinitely tougher at his position to make a decision, or not make a decision and live with the guilt of betrayal while loving two women.

呢個係事實呀！一段感情時空交錯地出現。但又吾可以係埋一齊，當中只有兩個人知！其他人吾會明白！只可會意嘅啫！你又會感受倒我嘅痛咩？

totally agree with Raytracing!!  We are very smart in creating excuses to ourselves in betraying another half.  People now are too well educated and able to create rationals to rationalise their mistakes.  ' I cannot stop loving you"  "all human were born selfish" "It's just not so simple".....these are all excuses.

think about what did you tell your wife when you proposed!!!  really sad to read over here that not so many people really committed to marriage.

if you are single,  have fun!!

i'll just quote the girl 3 posts above me " 真的，只有經歷過，才會明白！"


i don't think anyone willingly paint themselves into these kinds of triangular relationship where 3 parties put emotions in.   it's painful for everyone in it even the seemingly happy times and the "beneficiary".


the wife obviously will be hurt and disappointed and betrayed.
the husband is torn between the two women and the guilt of betrayal when he gets home and sees his wife.  and feels painful at not being able to offer the other girl a better situation
the other woman gets devastated that the man she loves is married and she can't wish for a future.  (or if she is more selfish, i guess she can wish and ask, but she gets more devastated that he never makes a decision and their divorce never materialize.  and she feels so alone whenever he leaves because he isn't truly "hers")

sorry  i'm single .i don't need to say any excuse have fun

是啊!
我亦試過把這往事寫出來, 舒口氣(因為積壓心中大久, 恐防 che sin);
但發覺太難抽離...且心情亦不好...
唯一可以令自己舒服點的就是用其它事情cover這件事,令自已很忙...
並告訴自己 - 漫長假期已完結, 既然冇本事輟學, 就要繼續上學!
Sad but True~

divoice ? do u think this is a simple things ?? do u know need to consider many many things ??????????

上黎呢度, 大家互不相識, 寫d野, 舒發吓......都唔錯既