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原帖由 hunterxhunter 於 2009-9-12 08:25 PM 發表 
Hey there Milo and wildfire.. sorry for not replying sooner, cos busy at work and spent the whole saturday naked at home with bf... screwing our brains out... practically naked most of the time...
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Hi Hunterxhunter,
wow...what a happy weekend! I am also happy for you and your BF. Regarding your answer to my 1st question, I totally agree with you. As I mentioned before, anal sex and vaginal sex are not comparable. In fact, they should be co-exist. As a guy who like anal sex, your BF knew how lucky he is, so he must cherish you more and more. Anal sex is the art of making love that brings you and your partner to the another higher level of love relationship (only if both of you like it). Yes, in HK, not many gals like it, I can see that some women (even including some men) are totally against it at all. However, it seems to me that more and more local HK gals are willing to talk about it in some public forums and show their interest in giving it a try if they find their right partners. Unfortunately, most cases failed due to their inexperienced partners and lack of information talking about how to do anal sex properly especially for beginners. Most guys don't have that patient and technique on how to give a painless anal sex to their partner for the 1st time. As a result, most gals, who was willing to try it for their BF or for other reasons, finally have a bad experience that makes them disappointed and painful. Unlike Milo and BCM, they may be born to be ready for having rough anal sex (their BFs are so so lucky because they don't need to put much effort on studying how to do it without any pain. They just need to fuck as normal). That is absolutely not the case for most ordinary gals who haven't tried anal sex before. Unlike you as well, most gals are not adventurous enough to try it again if they stand for the painful feeling at the beginning. I always see the sentence "if anal sex is done properly, there should be no pain...." appeared in many informative anal sex-related web sites.
From my experience, actual anal sex cannot be started until the gal is ready to take at least two fingers in the ass without any pain. In my case, before I actually ask for having anal sex with my gal (she is not totally against to anal sex, but she is really scared to get any pain from it. She hasn't tried anal sex before and she always think that anal sex is so painful and there should be no good feeling), I already put a lot of effort and time to introduce it to my gal by spending almost one and a half year on giving anal play (including fingering and rimming) to my gal during foreplay phase and regular pussy fucking every time we have sex. Eventually, her 1st time anal sex has no pain at all. Now, she enjoys it more and more. Of course, it really depends. Some gals may need longer time to get used to the feeling of having an object in the ass while some gals may not need it at all. Needless to say, especially for those beginners, it is important to make sure that they must be ready for it before they try, and most importantly, it can guide them to enjoy it starting from one finger to two fingers or even more little by little and step by step. Make them want to be explored in that area more and more. Another important reason for doing it is to train up the anal muscle to be more relastic and adaptive to a bigger object. When woman is having an orgasm, there is a strong contraction in the ass. If there are two fingers in the ass during orgasm, the orgasm will be more intense and the anal muscle will get more relax afterward.
As you know, the most painful part is to take the penis head in at the beginning. It must be done very slowly. Stop for a while to let you get used to it, then move it in a bit slowly inch by inch. However, passive relaxation of your anal muscle is not enough during this critical phase. You need to do the active “pushing” action like doing poo poo in the toilet while he is going in. When you do the pushing action, your anus will be opened automatically in a natural way. Of course, it takes time to practice. I suggest that you should practice it with some toys (such as vibrator or anal plug) starting from small to the size similar to your BF’s size. You hold the toy against your anal pushing action. Push it out when you push it in. Oh yes,…. Finding both a comfortable sexual position and a right entry angle for anal sex are also important too. A wrong position or an improper entry angle may cause unnecessary pain. You should try more different positions and entry angles to find your most comfortable one. By the way, Guy’s size is not an issue (no matter how big he is, we are not talking about the black AV actor’s extra big cock shown in some porn AVs). It is just a matter of time, patience and technique.
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