it's ok, i won't tell people! ^_^

if they want to know, they have to do their own research 

Somehow, people argue, when loves come
all the requirement listed are all forgotten/does'nt matter anymore

I quite agree with them.
However, love will fade out eventually, at least, the passionate part will fade out inevitably.
Satisfying the requirements will have a higher change to keep the relationship

Like, you suddenly love a girl due to appearance, you chase and succeed.
Falling in love that quickly that you may not be aware/alert about the weakness/bad points about that girls
or...you overlook those bad things and love her

As love fades out, those bad things emerge and impact the relationship.
It may end up badly

So, if i have the list, at least I can avoid these cases, rationally XDs

good points in wat u said...
but if u approach relationship rationally...u may miss out on the fun of relationship..

o..im off guys..u can continue discussing this w/ rosey..n im sure she has lots of good ideas..
bye chef n rosey...:smile_15:

Similar to period time of girls, guys do have emotion circle.
Those endocrine fluctuates or got affected by others exocrine.
You may not be aware of it though.

It's pretty amazing though

You may have already known, for a bunch of girls, living together closely enough, their M period will synchronize.
Other people can affect your emotion(M in this case) through exocrine-endocrine interaction

I agree, somewhat.  

I dont' agree love or passion will necessarily fade if you make an effort to keep it, but I believe love alone is not enough to maintain a relationship.

BRB.  Off to play Ring of Fate with my bf for a bit. 

PM me pleaseeeee

that was in my psy101 textbook, but i don't remember why. :p

If you argue with evolution psychology together with game theory, you can derive this....qualitatively.
That is a bit bullshxt but it's fun to think in that way

[ 本帖最後由 chefung 於 2009-4-1 06:15 PM 編輯 ]

Here I would classify the different faces of love

There are the passionate one ( 激情 ) and the long term caring bonding ( 感情 ).
The passionate one will be so strong which makes you blind.
The long term one is the one which bonds couples.
This two can be separated that clearly but I hope you got my idea.

For your points, effort/workdone has to be done to order to keep it.
I agree with that.
Still, those weakness/bad points may ruin it, or make it need more effort in order to do it.

You may argue, loving someone has to embrace their weakness/bad things
Sometimes, those are too difficult to embrace
For example, for me, I totally can't accept my gf/wife is a christian/Muslim.
I admit I am not good enough to embrace that.

I discover passion will go away if you make an effort to maintain it... Sex gets boring, but if ou keep finding new things to do, or new way to love one another... it'll keep things fresh

As for everything else, I totally agree, that's why I look for someone who's more well-matched to my personalities and views than someone I am attracted to.